Meeting Notes

• Intro to the show. 0:30
  • There was an ant in the office. Caitlin and Kayla are excited to see each other, and Caitlin has screensharing abilities.
  • Alicia is a good friend of Shannon.
  • Alicia and Shannon are excited to work with you for the next few months. They are going to do three sessions together and a series of coaching sessions.
  • Caitlin is the one that always comes and gets all the babble. She always wants to start working on the design.
• Perfectionism and procrastination. 6:21
  • Perfectionism and procrastination are twin sisters. They wreak havoc on each other. Caitlin shares her story of her entrepreneurial journey, starting in 1998 when she bought her first investment property and realized she didn't want to be told what to do.
  • Shannon shares her own story of entrepreneurship.
  • In the course of her life, she has trained over 10,000 entrepreneurs in various aspects of entrepreneurship, including real estate investing.
  • She discovered this process called immunity to change, which explained why our brains don't allow us to do the things we need to do.
• How our brains work. 12:14
  • Your brain is hardwired to keep you away from dangerous situations, just like an immune system that keeps you feeling good and protects you from viruses and bacteria.
  • A perfect example of this is when my son got the stomach flu last year, and now he's crying.
  • The three big components of imposter syndrome that eric is going to tease out in three different sessions, building self-worth, perfectionism and developing receptivity.
  • Merriam webster has added impostor syndrome to its dictionary in the more recent years, primarily plagues women, but can also plague men.
• How to redevelop your ability to receive. 17:40
  • Redefining receptivity, how many of you are great at giving, but not great receivers, and how many have a block in accepting or receiving.
  • The three worthiness, perfectionism and receptivity are all based in self-protection, and can be different depending on how you are triggered.
  • Perfectionism is not about being a bad person, but about self-protecting yourself from being ashamed of yourself.
  • Receiving money is another place where people block money, because they say no to receiving money, and it opens up for them to receive more.
• Where do you see the most imposter syndrome? 23:56
  • Michelle shares where she sees her imposter syndrome, perfectionism, receptivity and perfectionism as the most prevalent aspects of her life.
  • Michelle addresses the confusion between imposter Syndrome and being uncommitted and unprepared.
  • If someone is relying on pure talent, they are not going to be a top performer. People who rely on talent are going to not be top performers.
  • To be excellent, to be excellent at anything, you have to practice and that is part of your commitment.
• How to celebrate your wins. 30:17
  • Your brain seeks pleasure and avoids pain, so when you take the time to celebrate wins, the brain goes, this feels good.
  • Make a list of all the things you're really good at.
  • Write down what you are really good at in your business and what it took to get good at that thing.
  • What did it take for you to get to that thing
• Leveraging what you are good at. 34:45
  • Caitlin talks about her first client and how she had to prove to herself that she could do this over and over again.
  • Shannon shares what she wants to hear from the group and what she is looking for in the future.
  • Caitlin shares her beliefs about humility and humbleness, and how they are important in building self-worth and being in service to others.
  • The importance of humility over humblness in business.
• How to set your intention for the day. 39:46
  • How many people pick up their phone first thing in the morning, and how that sets the tone for the rest of the day.
  • One of leigh's top competencies is execution. She is good at implementation and execution. It took leigh a long time and a lot of experiences to gain the skill set and impatience to get results.
  • There is a hesitation in being the first one to speak up, because there is a negative connotation.
  • Own and accept where you are right now, and not compare yourself to others, because comparing yourself to other people is a trap.
  • People with post-apostor syndrome are raised with either one of two things.
• What Is self-compassion? 46:40
  • The three components of self-compassion, self-kindness, being kind and understanding to yourself when things are not going well, suffering failure and feeling inadequate.
  • The beauty of being a web designer academy.
  • Mindfulness is about being in the community sharing experiences and allowing your community to lift you up.
  • Emotions are just indicators. They are only designed to stay in the body for 90 seconds, so it has to be reaffirmed by another thought.
• The importance of owning your worth and business. 51:44
  • Open it up for a moment of coaching for anyone who is feeling like they want to have a breakthrough in their business.
  • Shannon is the most dedicated client in history.
  • One of the things Caitlyn had to go through was teaching mainly real estate investors. She also had her children and saw the opportunity for coaching entrepreneurs.
  • It took years to reconcile what she was good at and what she is really good at, the mindset stuff.
• Owning your decisions. 56:49
  • The moment in this world when Caitlin starts to own her decisions and not make herself wrong for others is when she becomes vulnerable.
  • The one thing Caitlin wants to see today.
  • The idea that no one will ever want to pay you for what you do, or they're not going to see the value in that, and who do you think you are to try and want $10,000 from someone?
  • How to use self-compassion on yourself to become more compassionate.
• Worrying about re-wiring your brain. 1:01:34
  • The worry of not being able to rewire the brain and not being willing to commit to what it takes to do it.
  • The fear of not doing enough for the value of the work or building the business, and how that affects mental health.
  • The brain is conditioned to look for evidence that negative self-talk is beneficial, so it needs evidence that what it believes is not true.
  • Caitlin shares a book about how to start the day with positive intention and see what happens in your life for two weeks.
• Dealing with toxic behaviors and their purpose. 1:07:03
  • Toxic behaviors are serving a purpose. They exist for a reason, but they are based on a belief that isn't necessarily true.
  • The takeaway for Caitlyn today is to shift her morning routine.
  • The negative thought only stays in the body for 90 seconds, and then it has to be reaffirmed with a thought.
  • It can be intimidating and scary to come in with a new person and get really vulnerable, but it is safe to be vulnerable with alicia.